Weekly Spirituality Tip: Develop your tolerance, patience, tact and consideration for others this week.
By developing your tolerance, patience, tact and consideration for others you are not only taking them into account and fostering your relationship with others, you are also fostering your ability to feel compassion and empathy for others. You are essentially bettering yourself while caring for others. Tolerance, tact, and consideration also gain you respect.
Tolerance is a difficult thing to develop when it comes to interacting with people who are annoying or those that you don’t respect. Try to put yourself in their shoes, and ask them for an explanation. Consider why you are feeling intolerant and learn to accept the uncertainty that can come up in these situations. You need to be able to “sit” with that uncertainty and not let it get in the way of being understanding and tolerant of the other person or the situation at hand.
Patience, ah it’s a virtue isn’t it? This a quality that everyone could use more of, no matter how great our willingness to endure is. But you can master patience with two steps, it really is that simple. #1 Slow Down and #2 Think Before You Speak. Its not easy to do either other these steps, but with time, and practice, you are going to reap the benefits of having patience and see the effects it has on all of your relationships.
Tact is the ability to communicate in a way that considers the other person’s feelings and reactions. Start fostering your tactfulness by being positive. Make sure its the right time to talk for the other person, don’t start talking because its a good time for you, put the other person’s needs first. When you are talking with them, make sure the non verbal communication matches the words you are saying to them. Don’t cross your arms and make sure your body language is inviting. An important thing to remember is to show interest in what they are saying to you. They are going to remember how engaged you were when they look back on the conversation, so make sure to make them feel like what they are saying to you is the most important thing in the world at that moment. Finally, a good way to foster your tactfulness is to practice discretion and always be gracious when talking with others. It doesn’t hurt to be humble as well.
Consideration is the quality that links tolerance, patience and tact together. Once you are considerate to others you become tolerant and gain patience and tact. A considerate person innately carries these qualities.